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Have you ever wondered why some people enjoy certain kinks or fetishes? It’s a valid question and one that people have been pondering for years.
Kinks, fetishes and other forms of alternative sexual activity are becoming increasingly accepted in society.
But what’s interesting is how even today, there is still a lot of mystery surrounding them. Not to mention, those who take part in them, along with their reasons and motivations for doing so.
For all the supposed scientific explanations in the world, we’re all 100% unique. We all take pleasure in different things, for reasons that may be completely different from one person to the next.
Fetishes are hard to explain from a scientific perspective because they are so deeply personal.
Whether it’s chains and whips, role-playing or being watched by strangers on an adult Discord server, what gets you going is what gets you going. But if you’ve ever wondered about the most prevalent Kings and fetishes, some are indeed far more common than others.
What Are Kinks and Fetishes?
Kinks and fetishes are expressions of wanting to carry out sexual activities and desires that may go beyond the realms of “normal” sex. While most people have some type of kink or fetish, not everyone may be interested in exploring the same sexual acts.
It’s important to note that kinks and fetishes don’t necessarily need to involve any physical, sexual contact. For example, a kink or fetish could involve something as simple as a certain type of clothing, or a specific body part.
It’s even more important to remember that kinks and fetishes are completely normal and should not be judged negatively.
10 Common Kinks and Fetishes
Back to business, it’s understandable how many people who enjoy exploring kinks don’t tend to talk about them openly. Even so, those who do bring to light some surprising trends and eye-opening insights, into what people are actually getting up to behind the scenes.
With some examples more surprising than others, here are the 10 most common kinks and fetishes among adults right now:
1. Voyeurism
This involves observing someone having sexual activity without seeking to participate or without the other person’s knowledge.
Those who enjoy voyeurism gain arousal from watching others engage in intimate acts or scenes, either with or without their direct knowledge.
2. Exhibitionism
Exhibitionism is the opposite of voyeurism, and involves exposing oneself or one’s body parts to others without their consent or without them having any interest in it.
People may enjoy exhibitionism, as they find it arousing to show off their bodies.
3. BDSM
BDSM stands for bondage, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism. BDSM involves a consensual power exchange between two or more people for sexual pleasure and exploration.
Those who practice BDSM can experience arousal from the pain, humiliation, surrender, or restraint involved in BDSM play.
4. Cross-dressing
This surprisingly common fetish involves wearing clothing associated with the other gender. Some people feel enormous arousal from dressing up in clothing of the opposite sex.
5. Spanking
Spanking is the use of physical force to cause pain or discomfort in a sexual context. People may find spanking arousing due to the physical sensations involved or the power exchange between spanker and ‘spankee’.
6. Role-playing
A form of fantasy and escapism that involves taking on a different persona during sexual activities or conversations.
People enjoy role-playing because it can help them explore new characters and fantasies.
7. Foot Fetish
A foot fetish involves an increased sexual interest in feet or footwear. People may be aroused by the sight, touch, taste, or smell of feet or footwear or any combination thereof.
8. Anal Play
Anal play involves the introduction of objects or fingers into the anus. People may find anal play arousing due to the tightness and sensitivity of the area, as well as the psychological thrill of exploring a taboo area of the body.
9. Objectification
This common kink involves treating another person as an object for sexual gratification.
Objectifying someone can involve focusing exclusively on their physical appearance, as well as less conventional activities such as body worship or body part worship.
10. Age Play
Age play involves one or both partners taking on the role of a character from a different age group. People may find this type of role-play arousing because of the power dynamics involved, as well as the novelty of exploring different ages.
This is far from an exhaustive list to say the least. It’s important to remember that everyone is different, and what someone finds arousing may not be the same for anyone else.
There is no “right” or “wrong” when it comes to enjoying kinks and fetishes, so it’s important to talk to your partner as honestly and openly as possible.
Communication, consent and mutual respect are key components of engaging in any type of kink or fetish – irrespective of just how wild or wacky it may be.